Love Is Blind star Ben Mezzenga seemed surprised when Sara Carton said no at the altar, but she revealed that they had actually discussed their answers ahead of time. "I was shocked about that," Sara,

Sara Carton agreed to keep seeing Ben Mezzenga after rejecting him at the altar on Love Is Blind for his seeming lack of engagement in anything with any depth -- among other relationship red flags -- only for him to ghost her a week or two later.

Sara Carton tells PEOPLE she "was shocked" by Ben Mezzenga after 'Love Is Blind,' but says it gave her "the most clarity of who Ben is"