What's helped most is understanding that forgiveness doesn't mean accepting ongoing behavior that doesn't work for you. You can forgive someone for something and still set a boundary about it.

People who believe they’ve been forgiven by God may be more likely to forgive themselves after hurting someone—but this self-forgiveness doesn’t always lead them to apologize. In fact, a new study ...

I often say when interviewed about forgiveness that about 99 percent of the people who attend my talks actually misunderstand what forgiveness is. This is not intended to criticize these individuals.