You should be able to come and go as you please, particularly as a function of your job. But marriage is not a solo trip. Your husband has to decide if his skewed belief is worth sacrificing your union for. If he remains “my way or the highway” about this, then the answer is the highway.

According to this letter writer’s husband, all solo trips — even for work — open the door to infidelity. Dear Eric: My husband thinks husbands and wives shouldn’t travel separately unless absolutely necessary,

This issue has become such a big problem that my husband has actually hinted that we separate as “we’re on completely different pages.”

In today's Asking Eric column, R. Eric Thomas responds to someone who is bothered that their husband doesn't allow them to go on vacations with friends.

"My husband thinks husbands and wives shouldn’t travel separately unless absolutely necessary, that solo trips just open the door for all kinds of issues such as infidelity."

This angers my husband immensely. He tells me “I’m crazy” and that I need to “pull up my big girl panties.” He’s also called me some vile names which I can’t repeat here. I know it’s irrational and I can’t understand why it is happening.

This isn’t fair to you, and I suspect that even if you were to never go on another solo trip again, there’d just be other little infractions that would trouble him. I don’t want to be too harsh on your husband,